Our life together as husband and wife
My marriage with David wasnt how I expected it to be... or what I had pictured in my head. I wanted my wedding to be beautiful but also our marriage.
Every girl (well that I know) envisions that when we have a new husband, there is romance, travelling, buying a house and raising children together.
My life with David was so much different...
My husband was what you could call a 'Con Man'. Everything was bought out of fraud. We'd finance new cars with fake cheques, but then of course our cars were eventually repossessed so we'd have to buy a smaller car that we could afford to pay for.
Applying to rent a house was a challenge too considering our name had a black mark next to it giving us bad credit and a bad name. So we'd have to change our surname and create a fake ID in order for our rental application to be approved. We probably moved to 4 or 5 different places in a matter of a short 6 months because either the rent wasnt paid in time, or wasnt paid at all. We would buy pets that werent allowed to be kept on the premises making the landlords upset therefore kicking us out. Or David would throw hissy fits everytime he was cranky and left holes in the walls that he'd punch through and we'd have to dodge the inspections, also in result of us leaving.
David also used to apply for credit cards, one in particular he signed the application form as myself being the primary card holder and forged my signature. Thinking not much of it it caught up to me years ahead when I found out that Dave had spent over $20,000 without paying any money back, leaving me bankrupt, (This haunted me after we were divorced...)
Anyway, his actions rubbed off on me and I was doing things that I really didnt want to do- steal, swear, lie, all the things that really bring you down.
Every weekend was also a challenge. All I wanted to do was spend quality time with David after a week of hard work. Except Dave would want to hang with mates and go nightclubbing. It wasnt with people you'd want to hang with either. They loved taking drugs all the time and they took speed and ectasy too. Of course David got involved in drugs and then introduced me to it. Never in my life had a touched a drug until then.
I wanted to really settle down, I wanted to stop the drugs and partying every weekend and to have a baby. It got to the point where I stayed home every weekend while David stayed out from dusk till dawn clubbing.
I argued with him that I wanted him to spend more quality time with me rather than him spending every weekend clubbing with his mates. He felt that it was pointless having quality time with me especially if I wanted to go to sleep, "Your going to be asleep anyway so while im out at the club you wont even know im gone" he says. So he'd just enjoyed doing his own thing.
10 months after marriage
" David, im pregnant", holding a positive pregnancy test in front of him. At that instant David had to light a cigarette. I think he was happy but at the same time he looked a little stressed.
Do you think me being pregnant stopped Dave from clubbing? Hell no! There were times that I would get dragged along to the night clubs with him at 6 months pregnant! There was just no stopping him from partying and drugs, partying and drugs.
Thank goodness though I managed to quit smoking, drinking and the drugs when I found out I was pregnant.
Throughout my whole pregnancy, David and I used to fight all the time. He used to go out alot even during the day which is something I couldnt understand. He kept saying to me that we needed a break from fighting and thought it was best if I stayed at his parents house for a few days to cool things down.
I thought this was a good idea.
Being at David's parents house was nice. It was away from David and the fighting and it was getting to know my In-laws alot better.
Then it happened...
One Sunday when I was staying over my In laws house, they dragged me along to church. Remember I told you that David's dad is one of the Pastors at some church? Well I finally got to find out what church he had been attending.
It was a loooooong sermon. Soooo boring I found, but I really felt a nice presence in the church and met lovely people.
After the sermon was finished, the pastor who was speaking at the time asked if anyone wanted to give their life to Jesus. I really didnt know what this meant, but I hated my life, I was unhappy in my marriage and I really needed something in my life. So I put up my hand and gave my whole life to God.
My In laws were so happy. I didnt understand why, I just thought yeah I want him in my life, but this doesnt change things.
Soon after church was finished I was approached by one of the pastors. He told me that I made the most amazing decision and he asked me to say the sinners prayer with him. He held my hands and prayed for me and at this point I was in tears! I couldnt understand why!
My mother in law bought me a Bible from the gift shop and she signed it "Love mum and dad" I thought it was a nice gesture.
David didnt know any of this because as you know I was staying at his parents house for a break away.
The next day however David came to pick me up from his parents house. The minute I was in the car, things changed. Not with David.. but how I looked at him. It was just really weird, I had never felt like this before. It was if I didnt know him. It felt like he was a complete stranger. I cant explain it!
Not only that, I had stopped swearing, lying and really feeling different. I was a happy person! I had to tell David what had happened in the church and he told me 'Yeah, well its no need to tell all our friends and stuff so just keep it to yourself'.
More and more I read my bible and I also attended my local church without David. I met a really nice girl who I became best friends with and at the time she was pregnant too which was nice.
As I got closer and closer to God, David and I kept fighting more and more. I couldnt understand it.
Heading back to David's parents house for another 'break away' David told me to not call him for at least 4 days. During that time he just wanted time alone. I granted his wish but gosh I was missing him.
After 4 days I decided to give David a call. I walked outside with the phone while I was talking to him to get fresh air and to keep my conversation with him personal. I just didnt want his parents listening in the backround incase we got into another fight.
During the phone call I said to him "David do you still love me?", he said "Yes but im not in love with you anymore". I said to him "What in the hell does that mean David?" He told me that he wanted a divorce.
I Screamed!!! "5 weeks before we have our baby and you want a divorce???"... I hung up the phone and his parents came racing outside to comfort me, asking me what had happened. They took me inside and they prayed for me. I was so upset that I grabbed my bible and I threw it across the room nearly tearing the pages. At this point I was angry with God. I thought to God how could you let this happen???
My mother in law said something to me that I will never forget, 'Tess, I know that you are going through a tough time, but please dont let go of God''.
Anyway, during these little breaks away from David, I found out that he left me for another woman and was seeing her whilst I was 6 months pregnant. He left me with no car, no money, nothing. I was literally kicked out of the house and was left with nothing.
I ended up moving into David's parents house where they took care of me until I was able to get back onto my feet.
5 weeks later on the dot, my beautiful son Jordan was born.
Yes David was in the labor room with me but I really didnt want him in there because he was on drugs yet again.
David's Ex-wife (who he was married to before me and also has a daugther) who I had become best friends with at the church where I gave my life to Christ was there in the labour room with me also. She did a much better job of being there for me.
Accepting God in my life was the best decision I made. In faith and in patience, I did believe. I believed that I was going to become a better person and I did.
8 months later I managed to find a rental property only 2 doors down from my In-Laws. Of course I had to be honest with my application and tell them a little of my history and they wanted to trust me with my word and let me have the house to rent.
I knew God was looking after me.
My In-laws also gave me their second car to drive around in because I used to catch the train everywhere.
I knew God was looking after me.
Ever since I met Jesus, my life has been so much better and happier. I know that I was living in the dark, but now into the light because I had so much joy in my life from the friends that I made through church and how I was blessed with gifts and also blessed with my beautiful son.
When Jordan turned 18months, I knew that God wanted me to move closer to where David was. I had no idea why, but I trusted God and so I did.
I found a unit around the local church that I had started to attend when I was living with David and thats...when I met my new husband Glyn.
Had I forgotten about God, I knew that I would go back to my old habitual ways of living. I wouldnt be happy and I would be so lost in my life. But trusting my mother in law about what she said in regards to not forgetting God. I trusted her word.
God has never failed me with his word. The Bible and his promises that he makes. With Faith I believed!
Moving house and attending a new church, meeting my new husband Glyn was something I thought that never would happen. Even becoming a Christian was something I thought never would happen. But it was all in Gods plan and purpose for my life.
But meeting Glyn my friends, is another story.............................!
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Part 2- The Wedding
The Wedding
To be honest there isnt much I remember about my wedding day... I know that I didnt get a good night sleep...probably because of the nerves and excitement. I also remember that the weather was a bit cool and windy.
One thing I do remember clearly though is walking down the aisle towards David. Everyone stood up as I walked into the church...I hear the organ playing the traditional wedding bells melody in the backround, I also see my grandmother standing close to the aisle with tears rolling down her face, looking so proud of me. The funny thing I also remember about my grandmother was that she had bought with her a small voice recorder to record our ceremony.
As David and I were saying our vows to each other we both heard my gradmother press play on her recorder instead of hitting record, I think the whole church heard her recorder play some sort of music for a couple of seconds until my father turned it off for her. There was a bit of laughter there for a second...
Back to reality... as David was saying his vows to me, he was looking at the preist the whole time. He didnt even look at me when he said his vow. We were holding hands at the time, so I gently squeezed his hands to get his attention. In my mind I was saying 'Daavvee, im over here, look at me, not the priest'. Why wasnt he looking at me I thought?...maybe it was the nerves...
He eventually looked at me and I had a sigh of relief. We were then announced husband and wife. I cried of course. Luckily I had some tissues rolled into my white gloves that I was wearing.
Other little things I remember was walking into our reception room. It was just beautiful... Fresh flowers on the tables, candles lit, The DJ playing dance music in the backround, the guests enjoying dancing on the floor, little chocolate hearts on the table and half eaten slice of cake on my plate.
I know I wasnt really hungry, I was just exhausted from the big day. All I wanted to do was to leave with David to our motel room and enjoy our night together as husband and wife.
Finally our reception was over and noticed a few drunk people walk out of the reception room. 'Well at least they had a good time!' I said to Dave.
David and I finally said our goodbyes to all the other guests and then we made our way to Star City Casino where we were going to stay the night before going away to QLD on our honeymoon, 'Now we can enjoy the night alone!' I thought to myself.
We settled in our room and the next thing I remember now was David telling me that he was interested in doing a bit of gambling downstairs in the Casino and asked me to go along with him. 'Oh great' I was thinking to myself again, 'Just when I thought we could stay in the room to have some quiet time to ourselves and he wants to gamble.'
I said to him"Yeah ok, why not, but can we do it only for a little while and then come up to the room to enjoy ourselves?" He agreed that it was a good idea. So we both got changed out of our wedding attire and made our way downstairs into the casino.
All I can remember now is David playing on the pokies while having alot to drink, Jim Beam and coke after Jeam Beam and coke. The night dragged on for more than a few hours in the Casino and I was getting really tired now and was ready to hit the sack. "David, I am really tired, can we please go upstairs now?" David was actually quite annoyed at this point. He walked outside of the casino and I followed him. He lit a cigarette, took a few puffs and sat down. "Whats wrong?" I asked, he said "Well this is our time together and all you want to do is go upstairs and go to sleep! I want to enjoy more of the night down here, why can't you enjoy it with me?"
I said to him "We just had a big day and I'm getting tired and thought we could spend some quality time upstairs".
Now that wasnt too much to ask...was it?
After our argument I was very upset and walked upstairs into our room. David came with me of course because I obviously ruined his night. All I could hear was him just yelling and shouting and at this point I really didnt like the sound of my new husband.
I decided to take a shower to get ready for bed. I knew that David had a bit to drink so I was hoping that he'd follow my example and get ready for bed himself.
I was still in the shower when David came into the bathroom still yelling at me. I was crying and shouting back at him for him to stop shouting, "You are such a slut!" he said.
I couldnt believe what I was hearing. On our wedding night...did he just call me a slut?... I cried and cried. I didnt know what to say. I just stood in the shower frozen and already had doubts about our marriage and we had only been married less than a day....then again, I knew he had a bit too much to drink.
I cant remember anymore after that night except I know that I just contined to cry and cry and in my bed I then cried myself to sleep. I believe that David decided to go back downstairs to gamble a little more.
The next morning I saw David sleeping beside me. Well thank goodness that he finally did come into bed, I thought...
I decided to take another shower to freshen up as we needed to get ready to catch our flight to QLD for our honeymoon. I heard David getting out of bed and then came into the bathroom again. He opened the shower door and took my hand, "Im sorry for what I said to you last night Tess".
I clearly remembered what he had said and the thought if it just sent tears rolling down my face again.
I think my eyes were about to explode they looked so puffy! "Thats ok Dave, I know you had a bit to drink, lets just go away and enjoy our honeymoon". I easily forgave him and he gave me a hug.
The Honeymoon
Well the honeymoon was better! The weather was perfect and warm. We took pictures of each other at the airport and then again walking into the reception area of the new motel we were staying at. We stayed at the Marriot at Surfers Paradise. The entrance was beautiful. Our room was on the very top floor and on the verandah we were overlooking the pool that looked like a small beach because of the sand around it and beside the pool was another pool where people were snorkelling to look at the tropical fish swimming.
At that instant we decided to get into our swim gear and went down to the pool. We even tried snorkelling and it was beautiful looking at all the colours of the fish. That night we decided to go to the Teppanyaki restaurant that was located in the motel. It was so much fun, just watching the Japanese chef do all his tricks. We even met a nice older couple who were were sitting next to around our table and they were visiting from America. We chatted to them all night and they were such a loving couple.
After dinner we all decided to go downstairs to the lobby to shoot a few games at pool. Then David and I sat and relaxed on a lounge while sipping on a cocktail. We were watching this American couple as they just kept smiling at each other and holding each other. We even watched them dance together to the music that was playing in the backround.
"I hope that when we are old like them, we can still be in love like that" David said to me.
I wasnt sure how to take that comment but I said "Yes, I hope so too, they look very happy together".
The next morning David and I went to Dream World, Wet n wild and Movie world, all in the one day. It was alot of fun, I even get a henna tattoo of a rose on my arm.
"Oh wow, I actually like that David, maybe I should get a real tattoo there!"
David said "Yeah it looks really good on you, why dont we visit a tattoo place tomorrow and I'll help you pick one out?"
I agreed with excitement! I already had a tattoo of a tiger on my left buttock and liked the thought of another to remember the good time we were having our honeymoon.
So the next day we visited a tattoo place and David and I looked at some designs from a book. "That one I really like" I said to David. He agreed and yes I got it done! It took only 20 min for this chick to do her thing, it didnt really hurt and it only cost $60. It was so cool I thought! It was just pure black and looked like a symbol of a bird.
The tattooist said I couldn't swim or sunbathe until it was completely healed, but that didnt stop me, I was on my honeymoon and just did it anyway!
That night we ate at the Teppanyaki place again. We just loved it so much that we decided to eat there every single night we were there. We weren't sick of it at all! We ate other variety of foods at lunch time but we made sure that we ate Japanese every night!
We were reaching the tail end of our honeymoon and it was the last day to do anything before catching the plane back home. So we both decided to do a bit of jet skiing. We had our own jet ski that we hired and we jet skiied for hours. It was so much fun!
The next day it was time to go back home to NSW. We packed all of our gear and headed to the airport. "Well that was fun" I said. "I had a great time, thank you Dave.
Part 3- Our life together as husband and wife. (Coming soon)
To be honest there isnt much I remember about my wedding day... I know that I didnt get a good night sleep...probably because of the nerves and excitement. I also remember that the weather was a bit cool and windy.
One thing I do remember clearly though is walking down the aisle towards David. Everyone stood up as I walked into the church...I hear the organ playing the traditional wedding bells melody in the backround, I also see my grandmother standing close to the aisle with tears rolling down her face, looking so proud of me. The funny thing I also remember about my grandmother was that she had bought with her a small voice recorder to record our ceremony.
As David and I were saying our vows to each other we both heard my gradmother press play on her recorder instead of hitting record, I think the whole church heard her recorder play some sort of music for a couple of seconds until my father turned it off for her. There was a bit of laughter there for a second...
Back to reality... as David was saying his vows to me, he was looking at the preist the whole time. He didnt even look at me when he said his vow. We were holding hands at the time, so I gently squeezed his hands to get his attention. In my mind I was saying 'Daavvee, im over here, look at me, not the priest'. Why wasnt he looking at me I thought?...maybe it was the nerves...
He eventually looked at me and I had a sigh of relief. We were then announced husband and wife. I cried of course. Luckily I had some tissues rolled into my white gloves that I was wearing.
Other little things I remember was walking into our reception room. It was just beautiful... Fresh flowers on the tables, candles lit, The DJ playing dance music in the backround, the guests enjoying dancing on the floor, little chocolate hearts on the table and half eaten slice of cake on my plate.
I know I wasnt really hungry, I was just exhausted from the big day. All I wanted to do was to leave with David to our motel room and enjoy our night together as husband and wife.
Finally our reception was over and noticed a few drunk people walk out of the reception room. 'Well at least they had a good time!' I said to Dave.
David and I finally said our goodbyes to all the other guests and then we made our way to Star City Casino where we were going to stay the night before going away to QLD on our honeymoon, 'Now we can enjoy the night alone!' I thought to myself.
We settled in our room and the next thing I remember now was David telling me that he was interested in doing a bit of gambling downstairs in the Casino and asked me to go along with him. 'Oh great' I was thinking to myself again, 'Just when I thought we could stay in the room to have some quiet time to ourselves and he wants to gamble.'
I said to him"Yeah ok, why not, but can we do it only for a little while and then come up to the room to enjoy ourselves?" He agreed that it was a good idea. So we both got changed out of our wedding attire and made our way downstairs into the casino.
All I can remember now is David playing on the pokies while having alot to drink, Jim Beam and coke after Jeam Beam and coke. The night dragged on for more than a few hours in the Casino and I was getting really tired now and was ready to hit the sack. "David, I am really tired, can we please go upstairs now?" David was actually quite annoyed at this point. He walked outside of the casino and I followed him. He lit a cigarette, took a few puffs and sat down. "Whats wrong?" I asked, he said "Well this is our time together and all you want to do is go upstairs and go to sleep! I want to enjoy more of the night down here, why can't you enjoy it with me?"
I said to him "We just had a big day and I'm getting tired and thought we could spend some quality time upstairs".
Now that wasnt too much to ask...was it?
After our argument I was very upset and walked upstairs into our room. David came with me of course because I obviously ruined his night. All I could hear was him just yelling and shouting and at this point I really didnt like the sound of my new husband.
I decided to take a shower to get ready for bed. I knew that David had a bit to drink so I was hoping that he'd follow my example and get ready for bed himself.
I was still in the shower when David came into the bathroom still yelling at me. I was crying and shouting back at him for him to stop shouting, "You are such a slut!" he said.
I couldnt believe what I was hearing. On our wedding night...did he just call me a slut?... I cried and cried. I didnt know what to say. I just stood in the shower frozen and already had doubts about our marriage and we had only been married less than a day....then again, I knew he had a bit too much to drink.
I cant remember anymore after that night except I know that I just contined to cry and cry and in my bed I then cried myself to sleep. I believe that David decided to go back downstairs to gamble a little more.
The next morning I saw David sleeping beside me. Well thank goodness that he finally did come into bed, I thought...
I decided to take another shower to freshen up as we needed to get ready to catch our flight to QLD for our honeymoon. I heard David getting out of bed and then came into the bathroom again. He opened the shower door and took my hand, "Im sorry for what I said to you last night Tess".
I clearly remembered what he had said and the thought if it just sent tears rolling down my face again.
I think my eyes were about to explode they looked so puffy! "Thats ok Dave, I know you had a bit to drink, lets just go away and enjoy our honeymoon". I easily forgave him and he gave me a hug.
The Honeymoon
Well the honeymoon was better! The weather was perfect and warm. We took pictures of each other at the airport and then again walking into the reception area of the new motel we were staying at. We stayed at the Marriot at Surfers Paradise. The entrance was beautiful. Our room was on the very top floor and on the verandah we were overlooking the pool that looked like a small beach because of the sand around it and beside the pool was another pool where people were snorkelling to look at the tropical fish swimming.
At that instant we decided to get into our swim gear and went down to the pool. We even tried snorkelling and it was beautiful looking at all the colours of the fish. That night we decided to go to the Teppanyaki restaurant that was located in the motel. It was so much fun, just watching the Japanese chef do all his tricks. We even met a nice older couple who were were sitting next to around our table and they were visiting from America. We chatted to them all night and they were such a loving couple.
After dinner we all decided to go downstairs to the lobby to shoot a few games at pool. Then David and I sat and relaxed on a lounge while sipping on a cocktail. We were watching this American couple as they just kept smiling at each other and holding each other. We even watched them dance together to the music that was playing in the backround.
"I hope that when we are old like them, we can still be in love like that" David said to me.
I wasnt sure how to take that comment but I said "Yes, I hope so too, they look very happy together".
The next morning David and I went to Dream World, Wet n wild and Movie world, all in the one day. It was alot of fun, I even get a henna tattoo of a rose on my arm.
"Oh wow, I actually like that David, maybe I should get a real tattoo there!"
David said "Yeah it looks really good on you, why dont we visit a tattoo place tomorrow and I'll help you pick one out?"
I agreed with excitement! I already had a tattoo of a tiger on my left buttock and liked the thought of another to remember the good time we were having our honeymoon.
So the next day we visited a tattoo place and David and I looked at some designs from a book. "That one I really like" I said to David. He agreed and yes I got it done! It took only 20 min for this chick to do her thing, it didnt really hurt and it only cost $60. It was so cool I thought! It was just pure black and looked like a symbol of a bird.
The tattooist said I couldn't swim or sunbathe until it was completely healed, but that didnt stop me, I was on my honeymoon and just did it anyway!
That night we ate at the Teppanyaki place again. We just loved it so much that we decided to eat there every single night we were there. We weren't sick of it at all! We ate other variety of foods at lunch time but we made sure that we ate Japanese every night!
We were reaching the tail end of our honeymoon and it was the last day to do anything before catching the plane back home. So we both decided to do a bit of jet skiing. We had our own jet ski that we hired and we jet skiied for hours. It was so much fun!
The next day it was time to go back home to NSW. We packed all of our gear and headed to the airport. "Well that was fun" I said. "I had a great time, thank you Dave.
Part 3- Our life together as husband and wife. (Coming soon)
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Part 1. Meeting David.
Part 1: Meeting David (my first husband)
Before I met him...
I was only 22, single and was already living out of my parents house and lived in a caravan in the backyard of my friends place, my friend was living with her parents. I paid $30 per week which covered rent to stay there and for me to eat dinner with them every night in their house. The caravan contained a small bed, a little sink and a small cupboard to squeeze all my clothes in.
Yes It was hard to live in the caravan, especially if I needed to go to the toilet in the middle of the night in which I had to walk across the back yard into my friends house. It was either raining or dark and freezing cold. My friend also had about 7 maltese terrior dogs running in the yard so it was hard for me not to step on dog poop to and from the house which made my caravan smell a bit as dog poo was always stuck to my shoes. I couldnt exactly leave my shoes outside of the caravan either as the dogs would've had a fun time chewing them.
I used to have a bottle of red wine sitting by my bed and cans of tuna to snack on at night if I was hungry. I had no TV or radio in there so I tried to be out of there most of the time.
During the day though I worked as a Beautician. I was paid $350 per week which was pretty good considering I was on an apprenticeship. To gain extra cash on the side I used to work as a model for a centerfold magazine. For a 4 hour shoot I was paid $2.500 It was great money! But hey what wouldnt pay that sort of money when you're showing off your entire body to the public?
I also tried other things to bring in some money- lingerie waitressing, stripping in nightclubs, I even joined a girls strip group that was similar to 'Bad girls' and 'Man Power'...thats as far as I got. It was enough to pay my rent and to buy makeup, clothes and to look after my car. I also liked to party every weekend with my friend at our favourite night club that we visited every Friday and Saturday night, we always used to rock up at the joint at around 6.00 and stay there till 6am in the morning, smoking and drinking the night away.
When I met him...
So It was love at first sight... or so I thought it was at the time, I was sitting down at a table at my favourite night club, listening to the music while smoking my cigarette, sipping on my Jack Daniels and coke. I gazed my eyes upon a tall and handsome blue eyed stranger who was busy dancing all by himself, I tried to catch his eye (of course thats how we all used to pick up, well I did anyway...) He caught me staring at him and he danced over to me from the other side of the dance floor, "Hey Im David" he introduced himself as he shouted over the loud music, "Yeah hi im Tess", he then took my hand and we walked over to the dance floor. We danced, we smiled at each other, he taught me some moves, I was having a ball!
Of course It came a time when we had to call it a night, so before we left the club we had decided to exchange phone numbers. After that night we rang each other constantly and saw each other everyday. You could say by now we were considered to be in a relationship.
So living in a caravan as you would imagine wasnt fun which is why I spent all my time with Dave. His living situation was similar though, he lived with his parents who had a unit and had their garage converted to a bedroom where David lived. He had his own double bed and couch, tv and table. It was like a self contained flat except it had no kitchen, you couldnt tell that he was at his parents house. They were both upstairs in their unit so I didnt see them much. His parents would cook him dinner and then bring it downstairs for David to eat.
I never ate any of the food that David's parents cooked as I didnt really like his parents, and I dont think they liked me either. They didnt like the fact that I was over Dave's place all the time. David said that If I ever wanted to stay the night I would have to sneak in his window in the middle of the night because his parents were Christians and didnt like the idea of 'non christian' women like myself staying the night. Pfft! I didnt know what their problem was! Christianity...what in the heck is that all about? All I knew is that David's dad was a Pastor at some church, and his mum was following along too. David didnt like going to church and although I used to attend some Catholic church's now and then I thought going to church was a waste of time!
So yeah I thought it was fun and cheeky sneaking into his window. I used to park my car up the road of his street so his parents wouldnt notice I was there to stay the night just to be with him.
One day when I was there (not at night time, during the day) his dad walked in the door to Davids room, I was just sitting on the couch minding my own business when he asked me why I parked my car up the road the other night... I didnt say a word but David decided to say a few things to him to defend me, "Why are you always interferring with my life dad, and why cant you just leave me and my girlfriends alone?"
David always had disagreements with his father and at that point he wanted to just move out of the house into his own place. That gave David and I the idea to move in together so we could be alone.
We were only together for 3 months when we had decided that we wanted to move in together. It made sense...I was living in a caravan and David's parents were always giving him a hard time...perfect idea!
Not long did it take us to find a place, we found a 2 bedroom unit, 1 hour away from everyone that we knew, mainly to stay away from David's parents, and it only took 10min to walk to the beach, it was just beautiful and we were just so happy to have a life of our own. We found new jobs, I decided to work in a girls fashion clothes store, and David was running his own painting business.
I decided while I was living with this guy that it might be a good idea to introduce him to my parents, so we both arranged our flight tickets to Melbourne to visit them for a few days. My mum thought David was ok, but my dad didnt really take a shine to him. I dont know why but then again I dont remember my father liking any of my boyfriends that I used to bring home.
2 months later...
"Tess lets go out this weekend up to the wineries", "Ok, sounds good" I said.
The wineries was something that we had wanted to do for a while, we both loved good food and great wine and David thought it was a good way to spend a weekend.
He organised our room that we were going to stay in for two nights, and also organised to go on a tour to a wine tasting adventure, it included a stop at a restaurant for lunch. It was perfect weather for it too, nice and warm with light breezes that whistled through the trees.
During lunch on the tour David said to me "Wanna go for a walk up that hill over there?", "Yeah im up for that". We walked up the hill with our glasses of champagne that we hadn't quite finished with our meal, sipping away whilst walking up on the freshly cut grass, it was just beautiful.
David came to a stop, turned around to me and said, "Tess, do you love me?" "Yes of course I do, what sort of stupid question is that?" David dropped to his knee, opened up a little black box and showed me a gold ring with a gorgous marque diamond on it. At this point I was speechless as he said, "Will then will you marry me? Will you be my wife?"
I screamed with enjoyment, I also had a tear or two in my eyes, could this day get any better? "Of course I will!" as I tackled him on the grass trying to not break my champagne glass that was still in my hand, "Oh Dave, I couldnt be any happier!" he smiled, took the ring out of the box and placed it on my ring finger.
Part 2. The wedding (coming soon)
Before I met him...
I was only 22, single and was already living out of my parents house and lived in a caravan in the backyard of my friends place, my friend was living with her parents. I paid $30 per week which covered rent to stay there and for me to eat dinner with them every night in their house. The caravan contained a small bed, a little sink and a small cupboard to squeeze all my clothes in.
Yes It was hard to live in the caravan, especially if I needed to go to the toilet in the middle of the night in which I had to walk across the back yard into my friends house. It was either raining or dark and freezing cold. My friend also had about 7 maltese terrior dogs running in the yard so it was hard for me not to step on dog poop to and from the house which made my caravan smell a bit as dog poo was always stuck to my shoes. I couldnt exactly leave my shoes outside of the caravan either as the dogs would've had a fun time chewing them.
I used to have a bottle of red wine sitting by my bed and cans of tuna to snack on at night if I was hungry. I had no TV or radio in there so I tried to be out of there most of the time.
During the day though I worked as a Beautician. I was paid $350 per week which was pretty good considering I was on an apprenticeship. To gain extra cash on the side I used to work as a model for a centerfold magazine. For a 4 hour shoot I was paid $2.500 It was great money! But hey what wouldnt pay that sort of money when you're showing off your entire body to the public?
I also tried other things to bring in some money- lingerie waitressing, stripping in nightclubs, I even joined a girls strip group that was similar to 'Bad girls' and 'Man Power'...thats as far as I got. It was enough to pay my rent and to buy makeup, clothes and to look after my car. I also liked to party every weekend with my friend at our favourite night club that we visited every Friday and Saturday night, we always used to rock up at the joint at around 6.00 and stay there till 6am in the morning, smoking and drinking the night away.
When I met him...
So It was love at first sight... or so I thought it was at the time, I was sitting down at a table at my favourite night club, listening to the music while smoking my cigarette, sipping on my Jack Daniels and coke. I gazed my eyes upon a tall and handsome blue eyed stranger who was busy dancing all by himself, I tried to catch his eye (of course thats how we all used to pick up, well I did anyway...) He caught me staring at him and he danced over to me from the other side of the dance floor, "Hey Im David" he introduced himself as he shouted over the loud music, "Yeah hi im Tess", he then took my hand and we walked over to the dance floor. We danced, we smiled at each other, he taught me some moves, I was having a ball!
Of course It came a time when we had to call it a night, so before we left the club we had decided to exchange phone numbers. After that night we rang each other constantly and saw each other everyday. You could say by now we were considered to be in a relationship.
So living in a caravan as you would imagine wasnt fun which is why I spent all my time with Dave. His living situation was similar though, he lived with his parents who had a unit and had their garage converted to a bedroom where David lived. He had his own double bed and couch, tv and table. It was like a self contained flat except it had no kitchen, you couldnt tell that he was at his parents house. They were both upstairs in their unit so I didnt see them much. His parents would cook him dinner and then bring it downstairs for David to eat.
I never ate any of the food that David's parents cooked as I didnt really like his parents, and I dont think they liked me either. They didnt like the fact that I was over Dave's place all the time. David said that If I ever wanted to stay the night I would have to sneak in his window in the middle of the night because his parents were Christians and didnt like the idea of 'non christian' women like myself staying the night. Pfft! I didnt know what their problem was! Christianity...what in the heck is that all about? All I knew is that David's dad was a Pastor at some church, and his mum was following along too. David didnt like going to church and although I used to attend some Catholic church's now and then I thought going to church was a waste of time!
So yeah I thought it was fun and cheeky sneaking into his window. I used to park my car up the road of his street so his parents wouldnt notice I was there to stay the night just to be with him.
One day when I was there (not at night time, during the day) his dad walked in the door to Davids room, I was just sitting on the couch minding my own business when he asked me why I parked my car up the road the other night... I didnt say a word but David decided to say a few things to him to defend me, "Why are you always interferring with my life dad, and why cant you just leave me and my girlfriends alone?"
David always had disagreements with his father and at that point he wanted to just move out of the house into his own place. That gave David and I the idea to move in together so we could be alone.
We were only together for 3 months when we had decided that we wanted to move in together. It made sense...I was living in a caravan and David's parents were always giving him a hard time...perfect idea!
Not long did it take us to find a place, we found a 2 bedroom unit, 1 hour away from everyone that we knew, mainly to stay away from David's parents, and it only took 10min to walk to the beach, it was just beautiful and we were just so happy to have a life of our own. We found new jobs, I decided to work in a girls fashion clothes store, and David was running his own painting business.
I decided while I was living with this guy that it might be a good idea to introduce him to my parents, so we both arranged our flight tickets to Melbourne to visit them for a few days. My mum thought David was ok, but my dad didnt really take a shine to him. I dont know why but then again I dont remember my father liking any of my boyfriends that I used to bring home.
2 months later...
"Tess lets go out this weekend up to the wineries", "Ok, sounds good" I said.
The wineries was something that we had wanted to do for a while, we both loved good food and great wine and David thought it was a good way to spend a weekend.
He organised our room that we were going to stay in for two nights, and also organised to go on a tour to a wine tasting adventure, it included a stop at a restaurant for lunch. It was perfect weather for it too, nice and warm with light breezes that whistled through the trees.
During lunch on the tour David said to me "Wanna go for a walk up that hill over there?", "Yeah im up for that". We walked up the hill with our glasses of champagne that we hadn't quite finished with our meal, sipping away whilst walking up on the freshly cut grass, it was just beautiful.
David came to a stop, turned around to me and said, "Tess, do you love me?" "Yes of course I do, what sort of stupid question is that?" David dropped to his knee, opened up a little black box and showed me a gold ring with a gorgous marque diamond on it. At this point I was speechless as he said, "Will then will you marry me? Will you be my wife?"
I screamed with enjoyment, I also had a tear or two in my eyes, could this day get any better? "Of course I will!" as I tackled him on the grass trying to not break my champagne glass that was still in my hand, "Oh Dave, I couldnt be any happier!" he smiled, took the ring out of the box and placed it on my ring finger.
We both ran back down the hill laughing and joking around saying "Hello Mrs.. and Hello Mr..."
We announced to everyone on our tour group our great news and everyone congratulated us.
When we went back to our motel room, the first thing I did was called my parents, "Hi dad its me, guess what...Im getting married, David just proposed!" Dad was ok about it, he didnt seem as suprised as I thought he might be but congratulated me anyway. I spoke to mum and at least she was happy for me.
David then rang his parents but I dont know what their reaction was, I dont think they were suprised at the idea because David had been married before but divorced a few years before we had met, so it was really no new news to them. I didn't care, I was getting married and was dreaming about my wedding day already!
We had decided that we only wanted a a short engagement "Well we are getting married anyway arent we, so why wait?" David said. "Yes, I totally agree there" I said. We arranged the date to be 5 months down the track. "Yeah thats enough time to sort out the photographer, wedding cars, dresses, bridesmaids and groomsmen, church, reception room etc etc etc..." I said with laughter! "Well we dont need to invite that many people do we?" David asked, I said to him no as we didnt know that many people when we moved in the new area, so we had to make new friends who of course, we met through a nightclub...
So counting all the guests that we knew from our previous jobs, our new jobs, our parents and extended family we added around about 50 people attending our wedding. We decided that we wanted a cheap honeymoon to save a bit of money so we booked our plane tickets to QLD, Surfers Paradise.
Choosing my bridesmaids was easy, I had my best friend as my maid of honor, David's sister and a work friend of mine as the other bridesmaids, I also had David's 4 year old daughter (from his previous marriage) as my little flower girl.
David chose his brother as the best man and two of his work mates as the groomsmen. We chose princess limosines as our wedding cars, a white two tier cake with a green ribbon around it (as the bridesmaids dresses were green). We booked our wedding service at a local church and booked our wedding reception at The Crown Plaza opposite the beach near where we lived.
So it really didnt take us long to prepare for our big wedding day.
Part 2. The wedding (coming soon)
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